Feel me, see me, hear me, reach me -- Peculiar benefits -- Typical first year professor -- To scratch, claw or grope clumsily or frantically -- How to be friends with another woman -- Girls, girls, girls -- I once was Miss America -- Garish, glorious spectacles -- Not here to make friends -- How we all lose -- Reaching for catharsis : getting fat right (or wrong) and Diana Spechler's Skinny -- The smooth surfaces of idyll -- The careless language of sexual violence -- What we hunger for -- The illusion of safety/the safety of illusion -- The spectacle of broken men -- A tale of three coming out stories -- Beyond the measure of men -- Some jokes are funnier than others -- Dear young ladies who love Chris Brown -- So much they would let him beat them -- Blurred lines, indeed -- The trouble with Prince Charming, or, He who trespassed against us -- The solace of preparing fried foods and other quaint remembrances from 1960s Mississippi : thoughts on The help -- Surviving Django -- Beyond the struggle narrative -- The morality of Tyler Perry -- The last day of a young black man -- When less is more -- The politics of respectability -- When Twitter does what journalism cannot -- The alienable rights of women -- Holding out for a hero -- A tale of two profiles -- The racism we all carry -- Tragedy, call, compassion, response -- Bad feminist : take one -- Bad feminist : take two.